Most people I teach initially begin by saying they want the horse to be their partner; and they want to be a leader. When things don’t go as they expected, fighting, nit picking, micro managing, and criticizing begins.
“He’s ignoring me! He’s being stubborn! He’s doing it just to get me. He knows better. I have to get after him.”
What do you offer to make the horse feel good about doing what you ask? Does it benefit him? Is what you ask appropriate, or at a time the horse can perform it? Do they even know what you mean? Would you feel good about being taught in the same way you handle your horse?
A horse is not a slave.