We are all sick of over compensating, arrogant know it all trainers. We’re sick of them pretending to have all the answers, of their flippant attitude and destruction of human and horse self esteem.
But, do we punish vulnerability? When a trainer or professional says I don’t know, is our instinct to recoil, lose respect, drop them? I notice a very common trend here – people gravitate toward those who have an air of authority, superiority and an edge of narcissism- but we resent them for their behavior. However, when we are near a humble but confident person, we often disregard them completely. We act as if they don’t know enough, can’t help us, and move on.
In writing about ups and downs, mistakes which are not often shared by professionals, and open and vulnerable messages, the comment section is filled with advice giving, which is perceived as dismissive, or flippant comments such as “I’ve never had that problem,” or “that’s why I always x,y,z.” One comment I received once read that trainers who admitted to being wrong should return all their former clients money.
So do we really want humility, vulnerability, honesty and openness from our trainers? Or do we subconsciously punish it, because it’s new, weird, and it makes us uncomfortable?